Resentment Is Poison

resentmentWith the recent passing of Nelson Mandela, we have been exposed to the man and his life works in every media source possible … there has been no shortage of information.

In addition to learning about the past successes and contributions of high profile people, I always enjoy reading their quotes.

Of all of the Nelson Mandela quotes I came across this is the one that captured my attention: “Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”

When you think about it … it’s so true. Mr. Mandela is telling us, the poison contained within resentment causes a great deal of unhappiness … and it’s usually our own.

For leaders, among many other concerns, resentment causes you a great deal of unhappiness. Unhappiness causes you to; lose focus, make poor decisions, become unproductive, negatively impact those around you, miss opportunities, lose objectivity and lose creativity. Don’t forget the added level of stress and anxiety that resentment can create.

These ingredients cannot be used in any leader’s recipe for success.

My leadership tip for you this week is to never allow resentment to enter your world.

If you come across a situation that is starting to steer you in the direction of resentment, consider one or more of these seven suggestions to help you shut the door:

1. Frequently remind yourself – life is too short to be unhappy.

2. Plan to do the activities that make you happy.

3. Explore the past for forgotten happiness.

4. Talk to people who make you happy.

5. Write a long list of positive aspects of your life – look at the list often.

6. Set some new positive goals – get busy planning to achieve them.

7. Go somewhere that makes you happy, content or comfortable.

I believe you can keep resentment out of your life and become a more effective leader if you remember these words of actress Mary Pickford; ‘you may have a fresh start at any moment you choose.”

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